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Being submissive in the bedroom doesn’t mean being a slave in life – these women explain why they love sub sex We all recognize the popular image of submissive men who worship women and get off on being dominated. I described this phenomenon a week ago and my readers’ answers surprised me in a positive way. So

why it those submissive women are often is perceived very differently?

Why would a lady want to be dominated, some people think. ‘What’s the point of feminism if women allow men to treat them this way in the bedroom?’ This response is perhaps clear on the surface, but it misses the point. Sexual kinks and fetishes do not have to be understood from the bedroom to the outside world. Surely the majority of the people who protest for equality is wondering: can women have the same desires as men? And the fact that so many women have positions of power these days makes it more possible that some of them will get off on the act of rarely handing over that power in the most friendly ways imaginable. Surely everyone should be free to accept their kinks without shame or judgment, regardless of gender?

There are women who are happy being sexually submissive and asked them what they get out of it. Submission doesn’t always mean being tied up. I have heard every lame mention, including the suggestion that most women’s submission is just indolence and a refusal to be powerful in bed. Sex is the only situation in which I would be at all overly obedient. ‘I work in a job with huge pressure and a lot of independence – I like to think I’m nice but apparently, I’m intimidating.

‘Yes, life’s demanding and I am a single lady – I pay all my own bills and there’s no one taking care of me in any sense. But in bed I want to be treated properly. ‘I don’t want to make the choices, I don’t want the duty. I am tired of taking care of everyone and in the bedroom I want to let myself free , knowing that if I do as I’m told, I’ll get looked after – I’ll be given what I want. ‘I need a lover to show me that they can dominate me and are worthy of my submission. ‘I’m claustrophobic and can’t be tied up, so any control has to be understood rather than literal. I need someone to be able to confine me with just a kind word or a look. ‘And I will test this.I won’t comply the first time someone asks me to do something. I won’t just say whatever I’m being told to say, but a good and gifted partner will be able to make me say it.

As a kid I hated being called a nice girl – even as a child it seemed patronizing. So it came as a shock that it turned me on when somebody said it to me during sex – it was a real association of can’t stand of something and being turned on by it. ‘Another example – at the end of a night out with my lover during which he had tormented me with his hand up my dress when no one could see, my tolerance for any more teasing was very low. ‘I outright asked him to just make me come and he said, softly and menacingly, ‘don’t you ever presume to tell me how to fuck you’.

Sounds awful, right? ‘But it worked, because I have faith in him and knew he was taking a bet on it being something I would like. I cannot imagine anyone speaking to me like that in any other setting. ‘For me, submission is about tenderness. I want to let go and know that my needs will be met. ‘I wouldn’t be at all satisfied with someone dominating me, telling me to do things and then not making me come. It’s not all one sided.’ What bothered me was how a couple who were happily alike in their relationship could balance this against having a sub/dom bond in the bedroom – surely it would effect on how they felt about each other the rest of the time?

‘I am submissive in the bedroom, but in no way do I miss of self-esteem in everyday life. ‘We don’t do it every time we get in touch, we tend to do it occasionally, like a special event, just as other couples may schedule a fancy dinner. I enjoy the denial of being ‘used and abused’ but we make sure we both enjoy the experience. It can be a relief from everyday pressure, but I think it goes deeper than that. ‘As a child I was raised to believe that only escorts enjoy sex – being tied up is a way to avoid the guiltiness that has been in-built from a young age. ‘You have to be strong and very trusting to be a sub. We find that it raises our connection as a couple as we share a fetish that we both enjoy it enormously. ‘My body always gives away that I’m enjoying the experience – My man would immediately stop if he knew things were going too far.

And we connect a lot during the time we spend in bed; it improves our relationship as well as our sex life. ‘I enjoy a certain amount of pain, but my man always checks he’s not being too rough – in fact he’s more careful than I am. ‘I don’t feel diminished or lesser because of it, in fact it’s pretty empowering being a sub – it makes me feel very hot and turned on. ‘It’s something we share that nobody else knows, which makes it feel naughty in a very good way. ‘I don’t feel inferior at all, as what we do in the bedroom in no way imitates who we are in everyday life. I am a feminist and sub/dom play in no way effects on that.’

How to Find Yourself a Dominant Escort, and What Kind Of Kinky Sexual Acts Will Dominant Sex Escorts Do On The Sexed Person In Question?

How Do I find a Dominant Sex Escort That Will Really Fulfill My Heart’s Desires?

The best way for you to find a dominant sex escort that is going to do just about anything you could ever want in a sex act, is for you to head online, where you’ll find BDSM forums where you can meet members, become a new member yourself, and of where you can talk about sex and kinky, domination, BDSM sex acts, in a safe, legal, public setting around the other members. The catch is, if you really want to have kinky dominant sex, or if you want to be dominated by a kinky escort woman while you’re at the club, whether it’s on a short term or a long term basis, you should absolutely start out by reading about it. One of the greatest and best BDSM and London submissive lady is called Valerie. She has given advice for anyone who is new to this scene. Valerie is one of London’s best escorts and has over the years built a large international following I highly recommend reading her posts. You can also go on forums and clubs and these things called munches, gatherings for new members that you’ll find on BDSM forums, and of which you’ll meet a whole host of other like minded BDSM individuals that are looking for kinky sex. Here, your best bet is to simply be friendly and try and make new friends in the scene, and not to look for kinky sex under any circumstances, this is honestly your best bet for getting laid too, as if you come across as some type of pervert or creep, the ladies are more than likely to find you repulsive and to file some type of restraining order against you, rather than take you in the back room and have kinky sex with them.

Here’s What My Own Personal Experience With Finding a kinky sex escort in a dominatrix club was like the first time I went to try it out

In my own personal experience however, what I’ve found is that if you’re nice and friendly to the women and other people around in the clubs, you’ll actually stand out, as most of the people that go to these things are going to be total creeps,, and in a kind of ironic twist, by not seeking it out, you’ll actually be the one getting laid at the end of the way, provided the women already find some type of a reasonable attractiveness in you. Think about it this way, you’re a young woman who is somewhat interested in BDSM sex, but you are totally nervous for your first time in a BDSM club, and are just feeling out the landscape, as well as trying to meet new people in the game. All night and day since you arrived here, you’ve been hit on by guys that you don’t even find attractive, groped by the guys that you do find attractive, and finally, have been annoyed by some ugly, geeky guys with glasses, that can’t possibly ever hope to get inside your pants.

Her Sexual Prince Charming Comes Along, Is Very Kind to Her, and Quite Frankly is Way Better Than All the Other Creepy Guys In The Club

Then all of a sudden, prince charming comes along, he is a slightly built guy but also somewhat thin, he has long dark hair, he is six foot four inches tall and has a very deep voice, and get a load of this, it’s also his first time in a BDSM club and he is just as nervous as you are. He sits down and starts talking to you, asking your fake name, what kind’ve hobbies you have or if you’re in school, stuff that a normal personal would talk about and not as to whether or not you’re here for penetration, kinky sex acts or just plain finding a BDSM mate that you can hang out with on a regular basis. The friendship goes on for weeks and weeks, and eventually, he asks you if you want to try out the Saint Andrew’s Cross, something that he’s always wanted to do, you feel comfortable around him, he says that he’ll never go past your limits, that he will never ask you to anything that you don’t want to, and he also requests that you be gentle with him while he’s up there. He even asks you to sign a non disclosure agreement for his and your own legal protection, and reveals to you that he’s dabbled in the legal profession occasionally, for this reason, and wants to make sure you’re both protected by law in your secrets. As you both feel really comfortable with each other, and you’re both someone that you each wouldn’t mind having a cup of coffee with for hours and hours on end, you both proceed to the BDSM sex room, and have some domination escort sex that will give you memories, and maybe scars depending on how hard you like it, for years to come and maybe even for a lifetime!

How to Find a BDSM Club and How to Be Charismatic Like This Guy So That You Can Get All The Ladies

The easiest way to find a BDSM club in your area is to search the internet for BDSM clubs, or for upcoming BDSM munches, there are also loads of forums and websites that you can sign up for with regards to finding a group of people who you can have BDSM sex with, or of who you can observe having BDSM sex out in the open. Most of the club membership fees are very cheap and reasonable, and they’re all somewhat out in the open, and always 100% consensual with absolutely no strings attached.

Final Thoughts On Finding Dominant Escorts At The Best BDSM Clubs In your area through inviting yourself to a BDSM Gathering, known as a Munch!

The best and easiest way in which you can find dominant sex escorts is to go to a munch in a BDSM club, to meet new people, and to have fun!